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I’m about to tell you how you can improve your self confidence, feel more beautiful, boost your self esteem, and feel sexy all year long!  

You don’t need Valentine’s day to enjoy romantic treats and beauty remedies to feel sexy and have a fabulous time.

Try some of these great ideas to be your own Valentine any time of the year:

I. Treat yourself as a queen by buying new sexy lingerie every other month. If you are in a relationship, your partner will appreciate it. If you are single, new sexy underwear will make you feel and look fabulous.

II. Enjoy a romantic dinner with a healthy chocolate dessert at least once a week.

Chocolate Lavender Truffles Recipe

Eat these truffles slowly in order to let the Lavender rise from your tongue to the back of your nose, sending a message of tranquility and that all is well.

• 8 oz cream cheese softened
• 16 oz semisweet chocolate
• 2 drops of Lavender Essential Oil
• cocoa powder

Beat cream cheese in large mixing bowl at medium speed with electric mixer until smooth. Meanwhile melt the chocolate in a double boiler. Mix melted chocolate with softened cream cheese. Add lavender drops and stir well. Refrigerate for an hour. Shape mixture into 1-inch balls; roll over cocoa. Refrigerate.

III. Take a  relaxing bath filled with essential oils or Romance Bath Salt every day. Some candles will also help us feel and look fabulous.

Listen to some tips on how to use essential oils to relax, feel confident and loved.

IV. Make a home-made beauty remedies facial to rejuvenate, nourish, moisturize your skin  and… relax at least twice a week.

More facial beauty remedies.

V. Have a massage, a real treat you can give to yourself or/and your partner. It  can be a real intimacy gift you can give to each other.  Apply some bpdy oil to enjoy it even more.

Are you single? Who cares! You can enjoy self-massage or foot massage to reduce stress, get rid of headaches, constipation and PMS and feel fabulous.

Try this simple foot massage to calm down,  relax and feel fabulous. Try to do it every day while you are watching TV or talking on the phone.

VI. If you are in a relationship, try to always speak the right love language, such as words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, service, touch…

Read more on five languages of love, and even maybe get the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

Breathe, smile and be happy.

© Irina Wardas, HHC

Women’s Holistic Health, Nutrition Counselor and Relationship Expert

Did you know that a little chocolate mixed with love can help you beat the seasonal blues and help you feel fabulous. 

“All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.” ~Charles M. Schulz

As we know, all chocolate is made from Cacao Beans (also known as Cocoa Beans). So basically, Cacao is chocolate! All the antioxidant value, mineral benefits, neurotransmitter rejuvenating properties, and overall health-giving qualities of chocolate are found in Cacao (Chocolate) Powder made from cacao beans.

Studies show that Cacao (Chocolate) may lower blood pressure, increase circulation, increase blood flow to the brain, and decrease chronic inflammation in the body, heart and cardio-vascular system. Dark chocolate can also boost serotonin level to help fight moodiness.

I would like to share with you 2 tasty and healthy chocolate recipes you can make for Valentines or any other time of the year to to make you or special Valentine feel fabulous.

Tasty Instant Chocolate Pudding Recipe for your Valentine Sweetie

Ingredients:

• 1 ½ cup (about 12 ounces) firm silken tofu, crumbled
• ¼ to ½ cup dark brown sugar, or pure maple syrup
• 1/3 cup Cacao (Chocolate) Powder or Carob Powder
  
• 2 tsp vanilla extract
• pinch of salt (optional)

Directions:

Place all the ingredients in food processor and blend several minutes until smooth and creamy. Chill I the refrigerator until serving time. Adopted from Breaking the Food Seduction by Neal Bernard.

Chocolate Frosting Valentine Recipe for a Healthy Mind

Ingredients:

• 11/2 extra firm silken tofu
• 1 cup Cacao
• 1/3 cup agave nectar or  Yacon Syrup
• 2 tsp vanilla extract
• 2 cups semisweet chocolate chips

Directions:

Blend the tofu, Cacao , agave nectar and vanilla in a food processor until smooth and creamy. Set aside. Stir the chocolate chips in a large metal bowl set over a saucepan of simmering water until the chocolate melts. Carefully add the melted chocolate to the food processor, then blend until thoroughly combined. Transfer the frosting to a bowl, cover, and refrigerate for 2 hours or until just firm enough to spread. From The Real Food Daily Cookbook by Ann Gentry.

Bon Appetit!

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Breathe, smile and be happy.

© Irina Wardas, HHC

Women’s Holistic Health  Counselor and Coach

Are you a touching / hugging person ?

Hugs and physical touch are very beneficial for our health: they reduce stress and relax us,  lower our blood pressure and improve our mood which help to boost our immune system, balance our hormones and speed up our metabolism (we need for a successful weight loss).

And for us, ladies, who are full of emotions,  what can be more important than a touch of a person we love or care? Hmmm, well, maybe a nice gift or two… But I think it depends on our age as well as our perceptions and expectations from our life, our partner, etc.

According to Gary Chapman, the author of “The Five Love Languages” we can speak  different languages to our partners, and one of them is “Physical Touch” Language – you speak it if you  truly believe that our bodies are for touching and would prefer human touch to gifts, help, etc.

So, do you speak Physical Touch language?

Or you are experiencing lack of physical touch in your life right now? If so, let’s change that!

I’d like to share with you an extract from the article “The Need for Touch – The Importance of Human Touch in Our Lives” by Fred Krazeise, Certified Massage Therapist, Intrinsic Coach, with an integrative health care practice focusing on women’s health and shock / trauma recovery.

...We crave touch from the very moment we are born. We learn through touch. It’s where we first develop feelings of attachment and self-esteem. The act of receiving nurturing touch makes us feel safe; it comforts us, and lets us know that we are loved.

Unfortunately, in America, we seem to be very uncomfortable with touch. And I am not for a minute suggesting that we all abandon our personal boundaries, but we don’t have to always apologize when we accidentally intrude upon another persons “space.”

Consider how touch is used in other parts of the world. Throughout Europe, it is common for women to walk down the street arm-in-arm. In many parts of the world, men and women alike exchange a kiss on both cheeks as the common form of greeting. In Greece it is common for men to dance, arm-in-arm (and it’s not just induced by too much Ouzo!).

Sadly here in the US, we restrict our hugs to that “all-American A-frame,” bent over at the waist, touching only the upper parts of our bodies. And what about those “air kisses?” What is it with that?

Touch connects us to our own humanity, and nurturing touch improves our well-being. Consider this:

- A study was conducted at a major university library. Librarians were instructed alternately to touch and not touch the hands of students as they handed back their library cards. Then the students were interviewed. Those who had been touched reported far greater positive feelings about themselves, the library, and the librarians than those who had not been touched. This occurred even though the touch was fleeting and the students didn’t even remember it.

- According to Adoption.com, Studies conducted in orphanages and hospitals tell us that infants deprived of skin contact will lose weight, become ill and may even die. Premature babies given periods of touch therapy gain weight faster, cry less, and show more signs of relaxed pulse, respiration rate and muscle tension.

- Marriage and family counselors report that that couples in crisis are most likely to have stopped the simple everyday kind of touch that is crucial to a healthy relationship. I am not talking about sexual contact. I’m talking about simple hugs, a caress – soft, loving, nurturing touch that we all so desperately need and want.

As we grow older, we receive less and less touch. We have rationalized that touch is no longer important. We’re adults now. We’re suppos ed to be tough. Sadly, we may come to associate touch exclusively with sexuality, and we forget that as adults we still need touch as much as we did when we were children. Unfortunately, the elderly are the least touched group in our society. They receive less touch because they are more likely to be living alone.

Simple, loving, human touch can:

o Reduce anxiety and stress
o Promote peace of mind
o Improve our focus and promote a state of mental alertness
o Enhance our ability to think creatively but calmly
o Promote a feeling of being cared for and nurtured
o Help fight off disease by stimulating the immune system
o Improve our sense of body image

So I ask you to look for ways to increase the amount of touch in your life. How? Here are a few ideas.

- If you are in a relationship, talk to your partner about your need for touch. If you feel that something is lacking or needs to be changed, change it. Take the initiative. Reach out spontaneously and hold hands. Hold a hug longer than usual. Share a back rub, or foot massage.

- Don’t be shy. Ask for touch. It’s totally ok to say to a friend or loved one, “I need a hug.” And it’s also ok to ask a friend or loved one, “Would you like a hug?” You’ll be surprised at how many people will say yes…

Let us be touch and hug smart, shall we?

And don’t forget to breathe, smile and be happy while touching or hugging.

©Irina Wardas, HHC

Women’s Holistic Health Coach and Counselor